Rebecca Leech
Rebecca Leech
A selection of wisdom, philosophy, knowledge, paradoxes and dream interpretation derived from my experience as a 23 year old female living on Planet Earth. I try to create my own meaning of life, embracing the full totality of the experiences that are presented to me. Everything I have written comes from observation and the depths of my own senses! This is my mind...

The art of letting go…

Last night, I awoke with a voice in my head saying… “All it takes now…is really walking through the door!”

Reflecting over that today, I’ve realised how our lives are a process of letting go in order to allow new knowledge, wisdom and experiences to come into our lives. Past memories of people and places can hold me back from being fully at peace with who I am. There is a sense of clinging to these memories and I’ve recently been trying to understand why…

As our minds are conditioned to think and be in the physical reality (and the physical reality only), we forget that the possibilities in life are infinite for as much as we can conceive infinity. We are taught to think in terms of restriction, so we restrict ourselves from being open to what life may present us. We are taught how to think and feel and so we conform to ways that don’t resonate with what truly works for us, which creates disappointments and repeated mistakes. But as I connect with real feelings of peace and bliss, I realise that I used to attach myself to things that I assumed would make me feel alive…not realising that all I needed to do was let go of those attachments in order to find what was real to me.

All it takes for me now, is really walking through the door. I don’t need to look back, I just need to be proud that I’ve gotten through what I have and that I’ve gained more than I ever knew to be possible.

And as I really walk through the door, an infinite pathway opens up where I can see so many opportunities laid out for me…

Hello Rebecca, how are you? I've just stumbled upon your blog & I must say your writing resonates with me. I love your writing skills & appreciate you're coming from your own truth & wisdom. I'm also on the path home, the journey inward, back to where love & appreciation are natural. Back to the place we are comfortable as we are, as we were created. I'm glad I somehow managed to find your blog because you write what I want to write, however you say it better :) Namaste!

Hello there, all is great with me and I hope it is with you too :) Thankyou for your kind words and taking your time to read my writing, I’m really happy that it resonates with you and that you are on the journey of discovering who you are and the pursuit for a deeper meaning! I hope that you share your thoughts because I would love to read them, Peace!

Weird and special human beings…

People are judged on the colour of their skin. The colour of their hair. The size of their nose. The shape of their body… But these things are just the unique details that comprise the fabric of who we are. No two humans look exactly the same (even identical twins will have little differences). That’s the beauty of being human, universally and beyond. These unique details make us, us!

People are judged on their personality traits. He’s stupid. She’s arrogant. She’s a freak. He’s deluded… But these are the unique details that comprise our personality. No two humans will have exactly the same personality. Negative traits and positive traits, we all have them, whether we accept them or not. We are all special and weird it’s just that the people that are treated and labelled as being weird are not ashamed to show their weirdness. That’s the beauty of being human, universally and beyond. Our personality traits make us, us! And from being conscious of them, we can then transform them…

Paradoxically, we are all exactly the same. You only have to look around and see, that we are all human beings here on Earth, experiencing the same thing. We all have DNA, blood running through our veins and a brain. We may all have unique details that make us, us…but we are still all human beings, learning and evolving, leading to the same place…

So what’s it going to take to see, that we are all weird and special because that’s what makes us, us!

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An interesting synchronicity…

Today I was at the beach just peacefully watching the waves… and then I was suddenly approached by a Chinese man who was in his late 50’s. This was the conversation…

"Hello, do you want a cigerette?"

"Hi, No thankyou!"

"Don’t worry, i’m a good man…nice day today isn’t it…"

"…it’s very peaceful!"

I didn’t get any feelings that I should walk away from this man, so I stayed there to talk. He then started telling me about how he had been too nice to people in his life because he had a good heart. I don’t know why he started this conversation topic but it went something like this…

"I’m the type of person that wants to help people without expecting anything in return. Because I had a successful business, I would always lend people money if they asked me for it but I never wanted them to pay me back. But a lot of the people I would lend money to would never speak to me if they saw me again, I thought that they would at least say hi…I’ve been too trusting in my life..I just didn’t want to be like my brother who had so much money but was so greedy with it…always spending it on glambling…"

"Well people obviously saw you as being a nice person, which is great but there was clearly a lack of respect for you… I used to be that way but now I don’t really trust anyone. I was always too nice and too giving and i’d get taken advantage of. Now I set clear boundaries and say NO if I need to…Although it’s obviously good to do nice things for people if you know that they deserve it!"

"Yeah, it’s a shame because it’s just in my character to be that way but I know that I shouldn’t of given people money like that…I noticed the boundaries in you when I first spoke to you!"

"Well you don’t really know anyone. People are so complex and have a whole story behind them. I have to have shields…but I’m obviously still open minded…"

"That’s true and you really have to go with what you feel, you can see it in people’s eyes when they are bad."

"I agree! By going with what you feel, you know if you can trust someone…"

"My teacher told me that I have to help the people that are nice and the people that are bad…but I did that and it didn’t go very well for me.."

"You have to create your own rules!"

"I agree. What you are doing is good though. Because you are young and a female, you have to be careful because people will try and take advantage. It’s not that you shouldn’t trust people at all…but that you should trust them until they prove otherwise!"

Recently I was wondering if I can actually trust anyone…an interesting synchronicity…

Psychopaths are walking among us!

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"Psychopathy apparently affects an estimated 1-6% of the population but not all psychopaths are cold-blooded murderers. They’re best described as people without a conscience, who prey on those with high levels of empathy but they themselves lack any concern for others’ feelings and show no remorse for their actions."

Although it’s been estimated that psychopathy affects 1-6% of the population, I personally believe that it’s a lot more. Psychopaths are renowned for having an image of charm and normality to mask their complete lack of conscience, so they can appear like regular people to those around them. Because of their mask of charm, it’s hard to identify a psychopath unless you get to know them at a deeper level, i.e.  if you are related to them, if they are your friend, if you are married etc. It also means that psychopaths usually don’t get a diagnosis unless they are in prison but as psychopathy exists in varying degrees (not all of them murder, as stated), there are psychopaths walking among us (and that’s a scary thing)! And a lot of them won’t even know that they are a psychopath…

Psychopathy is apparently a genetic disorder (and is 20x more likely to appear in men then women)…I can’t help but wonder if it can also form from a deep suppression of emotions through a traumatic event, or through social conditioning. Perhaps the reason why so many people do so many bad things on this planet is because they are developing psychopathic tendencies. Surely if a person genuinely has empathy, they wouldn’t want to harm others and if they do harm others, they will be drenched in guilt and remorse and learn from that mistake. Perhaps if it’s just psychopathic tendencies that develop, maybe they can be erased through intense spiritual training of the mind. Is it that we are so infatuated with the label that we forget to discover the real story beneath the mask?

These are the traits of a psychopath…(via WikiHow):

1. Look for glib and superficial charm. A psychopath will also put on what professionals refer to as a ‘mask’ of sanity that is likeable and pleasant. For example, the psychopath may do good deeds to gain his or her victims trust.

2. Look for a grandiose self perception. Psychopaths will often believe they are smarter or more powerful than they actually are.

3. Watch for a constant need for stimulation. Stillness, quiet and reflection are not things embraced by psychopaths. They need constant entertainment and activity.

4. Determine if there is pathological lying. A psychopath will tell all sorts of lies; little white lies as well as huge stories intended to mislead. 

5. Evaluate the level of manipulation. All psychopaths are identified as cunning and able to get people to do things they might not normally do. They can use guilt, force  and other methods to manipulate.

6 Look for any feelings of guilt. An absence of any guilt or remorse is a sign of psychopathy.

7. Consider the affect or emotional response a person has. Psychopaths demonstrate shallow emotional reactions to deaths, injuries, trauma or other events that would otherwise  cause a deeper response.

8.Look for a lack of empathy. Psychopaths are callous and have no way of relating to non-psychopaths.

9. Take a look at the person’s lifestyle. Psychopaths are often parasitic, meaning they live off other people.

10. Observe the person’s behaviour. The Hare Checklist includes three behaviour indicators; poor behaviour control, sexual promiscuity and early behaviour problems.

11. Talk about goals. Psychopaths have unrealistic goals for the long term. Either there are no goals at all, or they are unattainable and based on the exaggerated sense of one’s own accomplishments and abilities.

12. Look at whether the person is impulsive or irresponsible. Both those characteristics are evidence of psychopathy.

13. Consider whether the person can accept responsibility. A psychopath will never admit to being wrong or owning up to mistakes and errors in judgment.

14. Examine marital relationships. If there have been many short term marriages, the chances the person is a psychopath increase.

15. Look for a history of juvenile delinquency. Many psychopaths exhibit delinquent behaviours in their youth (but some of them can obviously exhibit none).

16. Check for criminal versatility. Psychopaths are able to get away with a lot, and while they might sometimes get caught, the ability to be flexible when committing crimes is an indicator.

17.Check out if a person makes constant use of ‘the poor fellow’s imagery’. Psychopaths are experts at manipulating our emotions and insecurities into causing us to view them as ‘poor injusticed fellows’, thus lowering our sentimental guard and rendering us vulnerable for future exploitation. If this psychological resource is continually combined with unacceptable and evil actions, this equals to a powerful alert sign about this person’s real nature.

18. Pay extreme attention to the person’s treatment towards others. Psychopaths are generally prone to belittle, humiliate, mistreat, mock and even attack physically (or kill, in extreme cases) people who normally would bring no benefits to him/her in any way, such as subordinates, physically frail or lower-ranking people, children, elderly people and even animals.

Trust your instincts and intuition. If you believe someone displays the characteristics of a psychopath, put distance between yourself and that person so you are not manipulated or drawn into a relationship that may only cause you pain.

"…Most psychopaths can appear as ‘normal’ through their ‘mask of sanity’. They are not necessarily criminals in prisons but can be CEO’s, politicians, spiritual leaders,  a husband, wife, child or the neighbour next door!"

"Too many people hold the idea that psychopaths are essentially killers or convicts. The general public hasn’t been educated to see beyond the social stereotypes to understand that psychopaths can be entrepreneurs, politicians, CEOs and other successful individuals who may never see the inside of a prison."

Female empowerment, it comes from within…

If you observe how women are portrayed in ancient mythology through the symbol of 'the goddess', it’s clear to see that the goddess is an embodiment of wisdom, knowledge and love.  The goddess is the nurturer, protector and healer. The goddess represents the power of balancing out the masculine and feminine qualities that exist within us all. Because these qualities exist within the goddess, the goddess is an empowered human being!

But in today’s society, a lot of women feel empowered through things such as pole dancing, lap dancing and raunchy outfits. They spend so much of their time being what men want them to be in order to feel empowered, forgetting the importance of feeling empowered from within. And from the perspectve of a 23 year old female living on planet Earth, I find it to be a huge shame….

A woman’s power lies in her natural ability to instinctively nurture and if this instinct can be balanced out with the pursuit for wisdom, courage and inner strength…a goddess then emerges from within!

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Starting from the beginning…

I was taught about the Romans, Tudors and Victorians in school, limiting my understanding to these types of events. I was taught that there once existed Dinosaurs and that man once lived in caves, trained to believe that these were some of the most significant pieces of Earth history. But I wasn’t taught to wonder about advanced ancient civilisations, other life in the cosmos or the human spirit. It was like I had to believe that I was insignificant and my existence was without any particular meaning, just existing like the Romans, Tudors and Victorians, leading to extinction like the Dinosaurs.

I used to go into supermarkets and pick up anything off the shelves, filling my body with junk with the intent to only stimulate my senses, not even bothering to look at the ingredients on the back of the packaging. Nourishing my body was of no agenda, because I was taught that being healthy meant that you were a ‘do gooder’ or ‘taking life too seriously’, even though food is your heart and health is your life.

I used to watch advertisements that claimed that a certain product would perform a certain miracle. I’d venture out to the shops and buy the shampoo that was being advertised, thinking that it would make me a better person, believing that it would perform a miracle like it was claimed on the advert. Not observing that the people on the adverts were just actors and bad liars.

I used to watch the news and believe every word that the reporter was saying. Even though they were just reading off an auto queue, I trusted their serious, fearful mannerisms. I didn’t think to question what it was that they weren’t telling me, or why everything that I was being told was only negative in nature. I was so full of fear, the agenda had been fulfilled.

I used to watch reality TV and believe that talk of fashion and relationships was the only acceptable way to be. I thought I had to be that way, conforming to these expectations. It didn’t occur to me that these weren’t good role models for me and that it made me feel insecure, and the people on these shows were conforming to expectations and that they were insecure.

I used to think that the external world was reality in itself, the journey within didn’t exist to me and if anyone discussed the journey within it would travel right past me… 

Even though I grew up believing these things, there was still innate knowledge within me, just waiting for the right moments to surface. As soon as I woke up those few years ago,  I was a baby again, starting from the beginning.

Life lessons…The meaning of love!

Love is a force that permeates everything. Without love nothing would exist because love is the mortar in the bricks of life; and without the mortar, everything would shatter and crumble. Love is a fine-sensitive feeling. Euphoric. Warm. Blissful. It’s in everything because everything is it. But our minds have been conditioned to believe that love is something that is restricted between two people and that if you don’t share love between another person you, are unloved.

But we all need to be the loves of our own lives, before we are able to give and accept love from someone else. A heart that is full of love for oneself cannot be broken. A heart that is full of love for oneself can not feel rejected. A heart that is full of love for oneself can not feel lonely. You have to love yourself first and realise that when someone loves you, they are just reminding you that you are lovable, loved and loving. In a sea of love, love between two people are merely just particles…

When your heart is full of love for yourself you cannot be jealous, manipulative or mean to others because you know, that you are full of worth, as a part of existence. And that other people are also full of worth, as a part of existence. Love is something that is supposed to be shared but it can’t be shared unless it is properly understood. A love for existence. A love for the planet. A love for your fellow humans!

No one can complete you but yourself and you can only complete you by loving you. By loving you, you heal, grow and become whole. Again, our minds are conditioned to believe that in order to love who you are, you have to be physically perfect. But loving who you are, just means, that you are grateful for what you have been given and all that you are. There is no physical perfection, only an understanding that you are perfect in an imperfect way.

You only have to look at the sky, and the stars and the trees, to see, that you are always loved because everything has miraculously evolved in perfect harmony and you are here to witness it.

The meaning of love is to love you and by loving you, your love is then transmitted to the world, connected to all that is!

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"You, are an adventurer, a seeker. An adventurer in your mind. You are interested in the power of the woman, in a woman’s deep strength and creativity. You are becoming this woman. But you need to resign yourself to the awkwardness of life. Only if you find peace within yourself, will you will find true connection with others…"

Before Sunrise (1995)

Life lessons…forgive yourself first!

Throughout our lives, people are bound to hurt us in some way; maybe through the things that they say, maybe through their actions, maybe they break your heart…maybe your heart gets broken more than once! But pain, in these ways, is an inevitable part of life, that’s no surprise. Although we have to forgive the people along the way that hurt us, because yes, what they did was painstakingly awful…we also have to forgive ourselves for allowing people to treat us badly in the first place!

There is a contradiction here; through getting hurt many times, we gain the strength and awareness to realise that we allowed ourselves to get hurt in the first place. Our intuition would of warned us but we ignored it and temptation lured us in. Sometimes we receive warning dreams about people months before an event happens just so we can be prepared for what may be, our intuition always wants to protect us from situations that may cause a lot of turmoil (another contradiction here, as getting hurt helps you learn to trust your intuition…)

It’s the ego stuff that gets in the way, we all want love but sometimes we search for it in the most bizarre places! (when really, we should be learning to love ourselves!)

Forgive yourself first…and then watch how your perspectives on certain situations dramatically change with the flow of time…

Wise counsel…

I received some wise counsel today, it was very enlightening. This person had such a controlled and powerful intuition that just being in his presence- with his high level of consciousness, brought me in the present, helping me remember who I am. He helped me realise that I should embrace my purpose here on planet Earth and that I will always find conditionings that I need to unlearn…but the more I unlearn…the more I return to innocence!

I love these types of moments…

"What gives me my faith is knowing that there is always the possibility to explore and learn about myself and the planet I live on even more. If I am able to create a sanctuary in my mind, I will always have a place to retreat to, when times get tough. As the quest unfolds, there are always mysteries waiting for me. All I need is the faith, to realise and to see, that life really does care about me!"

Rebecca Leech