I will not be using this website anymore!
But I will leave my page up as it’s documented my journey over the last couple of years (which I may want to look back on in the future).
All the best!
I was on a boat that was travelling through a rocky river, all of a sudden the rocky waters started to flood onto the boat. I was so scared but luckily, the boat managed to regain its balance, it then turned off through various tunnels that were difficult to pass through.
After managing to pass through the difficult tunnels, the boat then stopped and everyone on it was told that they had to swim through a little passage way but if we put our heads under the water we’d be electrocuted. The water was black and although I was filled with immense fear, I managed to get through the little passage way without getting electrocuted.
Upon getting through that hurdle, I was then told I couldn’t walk on the ground without getting electrocuted, however, someone with great stength rescued me and carried me back onto the boat which had just docked up to a field.
I then walked off the boat which was surrounded by lots of people who were watching me and the group of people I was with on the boat. We were walking through the field in a victorious way because we managed to face all those obstacles. At the end of the field was tall grass glowing in gold light, beyond that grass were ‘heavenly lands’.
This dream was telling me that although I’ve had to face many difficult obtacles in my life and will continue to face more, I have always managed (and will always manage) to get through them. Each obstacle that I face in my life will always give me more strength to face the next obstacle more easily. The ‘heavenly lands’ seemed like they were a reward, reassuring me that I should never stop pushing!
Let’s face it, you don’t know what people experience; how they see things through their eyes, what emotions they feel, how things affect them. You don’t know the complexities of what happens in their dreams or the details of their childhood. You don’t know how their experiences have shaped them or why they fear the things that they do. You don’t know what the voice in their head is like or what they are thinking. You don’t know how things taste to them or how things feel to them. You can ask questions but you can never understand it fully. You can’t even understand yourself fully so how can you be so quick to judge others?
You can judge people or you can accept them; their choices, their actions, their thoughts, their feelings. And it is from this acceptance that empathy and compassion are born. We all have our own journey to take and just because you don’t understand someone else’s doesn’t mean that they are wrong. They are not wrong and you are not wrong because life is subjective.
It’s an interesting thing, how when you accept people just as they are, the walls really start to come down. You realise that we are all vulnerable children underneath our protective shields, experiencing the same things as each other; highs, lows, pain, contentment.
It’s easy to judge someone on the small fragments that you see but they are after all, just small fragments of who they really are.
From my observations, there is so much manipulation, pettiness, drama, conflict and jealousy in the world. It seems like most things are just a huge contest, but why?
As soon as we start school we are taught to compete for the best grades. We are encouraged to ‘fit in’ to be popular and to conform to the school rules. The school system has literally enforced a form of hypnosis which encourages people to compete with each other with the aim to be better than each other and the more we compete with each other the more we believe that we are acknowledged and ‘loved’ and accepted…
There is a direct correlation between what happens in school and to what is now happening in the media and on the internet. It’s an evil form of conditioning that literally controls the mind. The school system has such a powerful effect on our development as humans. It’s literally able to cut us off from understanding our subconscious mind to the point of forgetting that we even have brains.
If we take ourselves back to when we were babies we can understand that we weren’t born to compete and manipulate. We were taught.
What’s interesting and funny about all this is that if you zoom out and look at the enlarged image of planet Earth, you realise how insignificant it really all is. When you see that image, you can not see manipulation, pettiness, and conflict, all you can see is incredible beauty.
Note: I used to be hypnotised by social media, I was miserable.
Throughout history men have always been perceived as being the stronger gender, the breadwinners, the hunters etc. and with these types of labels comes the assumptions that all men have to have this role and that all women are not capable of this role. For decades now, the media have been ridiculing men for showing any form of emotion, to the point of major suppression. Most men feel like if they show their emotions they will be labelled as weak and feeble by the society that they live in. Men have had this ‘tough guy’ persona shoved onto them for so long that ‘feeling’ is something that is frowned upon immensely. Most of the problems on this planet are caused by men who choose not to feel anything, that choose not to show empathy and compassion to their fellow human beings, that choose not to treat women well and that choose to create destruction. They are living proof of the danger of suppressing ones emotions. It definitely takes a very courageous and emotionally secure man to surrender to the expectations that are thrown at them!
Throughout history, women have always been perceived as being the more delicate gender which has made women feel somewhat powerless compared to men. Women have no choice but to ‘feel’, the menstrual cycle effects a women’s body and spirit all month long, creating waves of feelings and emotions that are generally unavoidable. Studies have shown that women portray more emotional intelligence than men and are more prone to showing more empathy and understanding. However, all the labels that are given to women creates the assumption that men aren’t emotional and that men aren’t capable of empathy and compassion; which is completely false. It is very clear that each gender has its own differences that need to be taken into account but I believe that men are cutting themselves off by choice. I believe that men are just as emotional as women because we are after all, emotional beings (and men have tear ducts too ;) ). Women just feel like men don’t understand or care how they feel, it doesn’t mean that men aren’t capable of understanding, however. But then again, a man that understands or cares isn’t a ‘tough guy’ now, is he?
I believe that each gender needs to be respected by the other, for all of our differences and similarities. No gender is better or worse than the other. We need to just be the humans that we are. Suppressing ones emotions only causes more damage in the long term (anger, frustration, depression, anxiety). Although it’s a mighty tough world out there, no one should feel like they have to stop feeling in order to live up to society’s expectations!
+ The media have been using a form of hypnosis for a very long time by which women are being seen as mere sexual objects. Men have nowhere near been sexualised as much as women have which is why men are more inclined to suppress their emotions. Women are also affected by this form of hypnosis which is why they are constantly competing with each other for external beauty (creating jealousy, manipulation, hatred etc.) Sexualisation means that things are judged outwardly and emotions are obviously based on the inner self. We have to look at what’s going on in the media and ask, why? Because it’s very apparent that they don’t want us to access our inner self, or we would essentially all be enlightened and those that are in control will no longer have any control…
But like I’ve said before, I can only speak from experience…
Society expects you to be one dimensional; to feel in one way, to think in one way, to act in one way… and if you decide to create a new way, you will be forgotten about and pushed to the side. Claimed as the outsider.
Unaccepted. Unappreciated. Unacknowledged. Bitched about. Laughed at. Stomped on like you’re an ant. But, if you can have the strength to make your place in society even if you feel forgotten about and pushed to the side, you are a true warrior. If you decide to still be of service in society and still make a contribution even though you never really felt like you found your place, you are a true warrior. If society throws expectations at you and you decide to create a new paradigm, you are a true warrior. If you have been pre-judged and shoved into unimaginative categories time and time again but you still continue to hold your head high with a smile on your face, you are a true warrior. If you can still be who you are, who you are really supposed to be, with dignity and grace, you are a true warrior. If you can feel your emotions, show your feelings, respect your emotions, understand your feelings, you are a true warrior. If you can see yourself in the eyes of every human being that you come across and understand that they are experiencing the same thing as you, you are a true warrior. If you can be magnanimous and forgive those that pushed you to the side, forgot about you, judged you, laughed at you and stomped on you like you’re an ant, you are a true warrior. If you can accept that the society functions in this way to keep things under control but also realise that you are quite capable of controlling yourself, then you are a true warrior. If you can not only be a true warrior but also feel like a true warrior, then a true warrior is who you have always been.
As I glanced up at the sun and I took a few moments to marvel at its wondrous existence, I realised that we are always looked after by life. Without the sun we would be in complete darkness, unable to flourish as a human race. The sun provides everything with warmth and light which in turn enables everything to grow and nurture us with all that we need. Everything in life is in the appropriate balance and harmony in order for life to transform. The Earth that we live on, beautiful planet Earth, provides us with the right conditions to habitat life which in turn enables everything to grow and nurture us with all that we need. No matter how tough life may seem, we always need to remember that we are well looked after by life. Even when a natural disaster strikes, nature will always find a way to heal itself back into
the appropriate balance and harmony. No matter how much we destroy the planet, the planet will always find a way to heal itself back into the appropriate balance and harmony. No matter how much we destroy ourselves, we can still find a way to heal ourselves back into the appropriate balance and harmony…
As I glanced up at the sun, these are the thoughts that came to mind. No matter what happens on this planet, life always finds a way to transform and we are always well loved…even if we don’t always consciously realise it…